“Emily Dickinson wrote that success is counted sweetest by those who ne’er succeed. And so too, youth is counted sweetest by those who are no longer young. Nostalgia is inevitably a yearning for a past that never existed.” - John Green
But if we think it existed, what then? (See An Abundance of Katherines)
Anyways. In relation to me, Script Frenzy is now going to be re-named Do Review Packets For AP Chemistry Frenzy. Instead of writing 4-ish pages of dialogue per day...I get to do 3-ish pages of that. Every day. Fun times.
So today I was thinking about listening, because I have been told that I'm a good listener, and I was wondering exactly what that meant, since it clearly means more than that my ears work well.
"Listening" is generally defined as using your ears to receive and interpret sound waves. Well, by that definition, the following scenario counts as listening:
Person 1: "(is talking)" Person 2: "Mhm. Yeah. No. Cool." Person 1: "Are you even listening to me?" Person 2: "Of course I am. And I even have a vague impression of what you're talking about."
I've protested that definition myself: "You're listening to me, but you aren't hearing me," meaning that my words are going in one ear and out the other.
And that's not "good listening" either.
So here's what I think good listening is, and it doesn't have to be through sound: Paying attention to what the person speaking is saying, and not only paying attention, but also remembering it. Which sort of ties back to the quote at the start of the post-- if you don't remember something, it didn't happen. So listen to people, or else their words will have been in vain. Not only does this mean you're being a good person, I think, but it also means a heck of a lot to the person speaking when you remember whatever it was when it comes up again in conversation. We humans like to feel that we and our experiences matter to others. We like to feel loved.
Then again, we also need to forgive people when they forget things...but that's another post entirely and kind of defeats the purpose of this one, so...